[MHN Seoul] 風前燈. A Chinese saying, that means something is in danger and cannot hold on any longer. We started to use the term ‘meltdown’ a lot these days. In Korea, the term ‘Men-Boong’, short for “Mental Boongwe(collapse)” has been widely spread online, contributing to the wide interest of one’s mentality.
The effort to build a strong mental is ongoing as people nowadays go through ‘meltdowns’ often. With a strong effort everybody can transform a prone-to-danger-mental, into a bulletproof-mental. Here are the eight habits of people who do not ‘meltdown’ easily. Let’s strengthen our weak mentalities by observing people who hold it down.
1. Always assume everything is under control.
Many people think that luck has to do with success and failure. That success comes with luck, and that failures are due to bad luck, and yes, many successful people do admit there good luck.
However, they don’t wait for luck nor do they worry about bad luck. They think success and failure is something that is controllable. They view success as an outcome from their wellness, and failure as an outcome from their mistakes.
2. Minimize things that needs decision-making.
We spend a lot of mental energy on deciding things everyday in many ways. But the more there is to decide, the harder it is for our brain to stand, later tending to choose the easier way out and just go over it.
This leads to making impulsive choices and eventually a meltdown. Therefore one of the start-ups to a stronger mentality is to minimize things that need decisions.
3. Push aside things that can’t be affected directly.
A strong mental is like a strong muscle tissue. It cannot be used infinitely. Push aside things that we cannot affect in our own abilities. Focus on things that you can control.
4. Take the past no more than a lesson that was worth it.
Past experiences are very important. You can fix what you once made mistakes on and learn by analyzing mistakes from others. But that is it.
Take the past as a hard training session. Once you start to obsess about the past, ‘meltdown’s can easily come and collapse all the patience, self-discipline and focus you have built on for so long.
5. Celebrate the success of another.
Many people have this silly thought that another person’s success will take away mine. Celebrate and congratulate someone’s success together and try to find more inspiration and motives by getting closer to them. People with a strong mental know how to make another’s success, into one’s own.
6. Don’t complain or criticize yourself.
Expressing trouble and hate towards oneself will not make any situation better. Criticizing oneself is only a waste of time. Driven people take that time to think of solutions that will solve problems, because they won’t allow bringing themselves down.
7. Continually focus on long-term goals.
It’s easy to let your guard down when your mental is vulnerable even though you want to succeed. Just like stuffing yourself with food after saying you’ll start your diet tomorrow. Even though it’s taking them away from success, people with weak mentalities try to go the easy way. That’s why it’s important to focus on a long-term goal continually in your head so you don’t spontaneously fall into the wrong path.
8. Put your guards up and never loosen up.
Just a moment of loosening up can breakdown that strong mental you’ve been training for so long. The moment one’s guard is off, someone who was on a diet will experience the yo-yo effect, and someone who’s been saving money will start spending hastily.[Translated by] Gen_E